As an active alcoholic, Matt thought all of his attempts to control his drinking, his pontifications about how it would be different this time, and his complaints about how bad he felt after a binge, were of interest to Sheri. They were not. In fact, over time, they drove a wedge of resentment into the marriage that would take years to extract. Sobriety didn’t fix anything. When the alcohol was gone, the problems became more obvious.
In this episode, Matt and Sheri talk directly to the alcoholics and try to deliver a potentially marriage-saving message. It’s not her fault. She’s not just an intolerant bitch. It’s the alcohol. It’s you. If you are going to save the marriage, you’re going to have to come to grips with some things.
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I’ve been married to my alcoholic husband for 33 years. Mind you I also grew up in an alcoholic home with an alcoholic father and a very bitter mother who was always out to get even with him. My mother’s grandmother raised her because my biological grandmother was an alcoholic as well… and the cycle continues.
My husband and I separated 8 years ago for a few months and needless to say, he kept drinking. Then one day God shook the crap outta him and I though he had changed but I was wrong.
I found out on our daughter’s wedding day in September that he had been drinking for years and was hiding it and my own father was keeping it a secret as well for him.
I shared this podcast with my husband today and I pray it helps because I’m a bitter bitter person right now. My whole family is so dysfunctional because of alcohol that they can’t even have a gathering unless alcohol is included as a passing dish.
I refuse to have alcohol in my home nor will I go anywhere it’s being served
. I’ve always been the nondrinker. Why? Because I HATE alcohol and what it has done to my family.
I love my husband with all my heart but I can’t do this anymore. I am so so tired of the promises and lies. I trust no one!
I’ve been a very very faithful wife and feel worthless, unloved, unappreciated, used etc.
I thank you and your wife for your honesty and these podcast.
I truly thought my husband and I were that couple like you, that made it, but we are not.
I don’t know if we will ever be that couple but I refuse to be like my parents who have been married and divorced twice but are still together and still miserable even though neither of them drink anymore.
Thank you for your feedback and honesty, Lisa. I’m so sorry for your situation. We’ve got room for you in Echoes of Recovery.