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We are Sheri and Matt Salis, and our marriage survived active alcoholism. We were shocked to find our relationship in even more trouble in recovery because of the pain, lack of trust and years of resentment that sobriety exposed. But we are making it work, and we are sharing our painful story with the millions of alcoholic couples dealing with both active alcoholism, and also the challenges of recovery.

Ep369 – The Guilt of Womanhood

Sheri feels guilty about things that Matt would never feel guilty about if the roles were reversed. Is it instincts or is it conditioning? Listen to find out. At the end, Matt tries to convince Sheri that there are things she does that deserve some womanly guilt. She doesn't hold back, nor does she feel guilty, with her reaction. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

Underlying Issues

Beige Penis Privilege

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Ep368 – Feeling Judged

Being judged for our actions and opinions is one thing. Feeling judged long after the judgement has stopped is something else entirely. Moving past the feelings judgement takes the hard work and patience of growth and discovery. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

Underlying Issues

He Might Be Dead, But It’s My Sunday That’s Ruined

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Ep367 – Accountability: Why did they do that?

We all know that accountability involves assessing and accepting blame, but it goes much deeper. Accountability is also about asking why and getting to the root causes and underlying issues. Sheri and Matt discuss several scenarios, and Matt is genuinely surprised to realize he is the owner of all the accountability. Most of it, anyway. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

Underlying Issues

Jesus Got Rizz

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Ep366 – Impact of Trauma on Sheri’s Voice

Regular listeners of the Untoxicated Podcast have surely noticed Sheri's cough. On this episode, she shares the therapeutic work she is doing, both physical and psychological, to reduce or eliminate her throat pain, neck strain, and chronic cough. While she is encouraged by her progress and enthusiastic about the outcome, she also talks about her disappointment that she still cares about Matt's opinion, and feels embarrassment about her therapeutic exercises. This is a raw and authentic conversation. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

Underlying Issues

Stage Fright

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Ep365 – The Second Story with Shari Caudron

Have you reached midlife with lots of skills and experiences, but with a nagging feeling that those tools are leaving you unfulfilled, and doubling down just isn't working anymore? Are you ready for your second story, but you need to reframe your goals and aspirations? Shari Caudron is a journalist, an essayist, a memoirist, and Matt's writing coach, and she joins Sheri and Matt to share what she learned writing her third book, The Second Story, available September 22, 2026. To learn more about Shari and her insightful memoir, please go to ShariCaudron.com. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

Underlying Issues

Death Musings

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